I was recently having a conversation with a guy I’m talking to about how much muscle toning is sexy in a woman (relax Aunty, we are just talking). I think many women athletes can agree this is always a sensitive topic. As a former pro tennis player I have had my share of body image issues and being Indian hasn’t made it any easier (cue petite and super curvy Bollywood actresses gracefully prancing around the TV screen). I feel that society tells us that women with big strong muscular physiques are not sexy. Most men I know find female fitness models unattractive. How much muscle tone is sexy and what point does it become unattractive?
I have always had an athletic build. As a young teenager, I was lean and very toned from all the hours I spent on the tennis court. I felt fit and very confident. As I got older and started weight lifting, it drastically improved my foot speed and the pace at which I hit the ball. At one point in my career I got a little too big. I had a few extra pounds on me (seriously no more than 5-10 pounds) and had a lot of muscle mass. I loved being able to hit the ball so hard, and to being so strong. I loved being powerful and it gave me so much confidence as a female athlete. But as a young woman I often felt so self conscious and unsexy, especially in social settings. My friends would make comments. My extended family would straight up tell me I was “fat” and “manly.” I walked like a man. Buying jeans that fit my quadriceps and butt was always a unfruitful mission. Indian blouses were a nightmare to try and squeeze my biceps in to. I could never look and act as gracefully as all those other girls. My shoulders were big, my abs were ripped, arms were thick, my hands had ugly callouses and my legs were bulging. At times I really felt embarrassed. Luckily, I always felt a little more feminine than my sister, Shikha who was constantly reprimanded for “walking like a man.”
Now at 27, I’ve been off the tour and training regime for 5 years and have naturally lost a lot of muscle mass. I definitely feel a lot more feminine than I used to but I really miss my strength and power. I like my body but always want to feel more toned. I drool over Michelle Obama and Serena Williams’ arms.It still bothers me when I go to India and friends/family tell me “you lost so much weight, you used to be so fat.” Their ignorance to the importance my muscles played in my tennis career is so irritating. Maybe it is their lack of appreciation for the work I put to create that body that bothers me.
In my books female body builders are so unattractive but track and fielders are beautiful. I also find women who are ‘skinny fat’, that is, thin by nature and lacking any muscle definition what so ever very unappealing.
A lot of women such as Flo Jo, Serena Williams and Anna Watson have started to change the notion that muscles on a woman are not sexy. But to what extent? And what about men? Is lack of large muscle mass unattractive in a man?
What do you think?
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I think you were absolutely gorgeous during your playing days! You look like a sensual, muscular goddess with those thick biceps and legs and six pack abs. Capable of humbling many men out there with your power and strength, yet still quite sensuous and feminine, IMO. I know your playing days are over but I’d love to see you get back to that physique. Stay confident and believe in yourself no matter what anyone says 🙂
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